Alternative responses to “arigatou” (thank you) in Japanese besides “dou itashimashite” (you’re welcome)

By | July 2, 2018

Emphasis on manners and politeness is one of the key characteristics of both Japanese culture as well as an integral part of the language itself

Beginners generally start with basic phrases like “ありがとう” (arigatou), “ごめん” (gomen), and “どういたしまして” (dou itashimashite), but eventually learn better ways to express themselves in a variety of situations.

In this post, I’d like to focus on the last of these, どういたしまして, which is generally translated into English as “you’re welcome”. For those who are curious (this will come in handy later), the origin of this phrase comes from:

「どう」 (どのように)  +  「いたしまして」 (-masu form of いたす, where いたす is a polite verb for する, ‘to do’)

According to this page, this essentially means:

何を、したというわけでもありませんよ(だから、気になさらないでください)

Translated into English:

It wasn’t like [I] did anything (So please don’t concern yourself)

I had learned this phrase during my first few months of study, but years later I realized that I rarely heard Japanese people actually use the phrase. Instead, I would often hear the following:

  • いいえいいえ (iie iie)

“いいえ” is literally “no”, but I eventually picked up that this means something like “no, don’t worry about it” or “no, it’s nothing”.

However, just recently I ran across a really interesting Japanese article that talks about how どういたしまして is not always the most appropriate response to ありがとう. I highly recommend reading the article as an exercise to mid-level and advanced students, but I’ll give a brief summary of it here.

While どういたしまして is generally safe to use towards those at or below your level, it can be considered as inappropriate to those above your level, for example those with more experience (先輩) or teachers (先生). By the way, in Japanese we generally call people above our level 目上の人 (meue no hito).

As to the reason why it is inappropriate, the article says どういたしまして is similar to the phrase 大したことはありません, which in English roughly means “It’s no big deal”. This is in line with what we talked about above.

However, if you think about it, saying something that (for example) your boss did for you was “no big deal” could imply the favor was a trivial thing. So you can probably understand how this phrase could be seen as inappropriate. That’s why for those above your level, there are other phrases that are safer to use.

There are seven phrases in the original article, but I’ll just highlight three of them here:

Option 1:「とんでもないことでございます。お役に立てればうれしいです」 (tonde mo nai koto degozaimasu. oyaku ni tatereba ureshii desu)

This is quite a mouthful, so let me talk about the two parts of this phrase.

“とんでもないことでございます” is a formal, but strong way to disagree with something, perhaps translatable as “By no means is that true”. Here, でございます is a polite/formal way to say です. A simpler variation of this phrase (one I have used before myself) is とんでもないです.

“お役に立てればうれしいです” means “I’m happy to have been able to be of use (to you)”

I think that, for the most part, you can use these two expressions on their own, although you may get a greater effect to use them together.

Option 2:「また、いつでも仰って下さい」(mata, itsudemo osshatte kudasai)

This phrase can be literally translated as “Please say (anything) again, anytime”, though this sounds very awkward when translated. You can think of it as meaning “Please feel free to ask me again if you need help anytime”.

Option 3:「お手伝いできてよかったです。」 (otetsudai dekite yokatta desu)

This phrase means “I’m glad to have been able to help”, though it’s good to know that the “have been” tense doesn’t actually exist in Japanese.

Rather than getting confused with all these, I’d suggest picking one (maybe お役に立てればうれしいです), memorize it, and try to use it the next chance you get. The other person might even be surprised by your use of this more advanced expression of politeness.

 

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2 thoughts on “Alternative responses to “arigatou” (thank you) in Japanese besides “dou itashimashite” (you’re welcome)

  1. NoxArt

    Nice post! Some musings:
    Setting aside grammatical politeness do I understand correctly that the difference between とんでもないことでございます and 大したことはありません is that (basically) the latter describes it as “not a big deal ~ implying small deal” while the former “not a terrible / insurmountable deal ~ implying still kinda a deal, but we managed”?
    On that note – in a similarly themed post on japanese.stackexchange one of the suggestions was おやすいご用です … while it seems like a polite phrase, semantically it seems to be totally at odds with the principle that was presented, so how ok is that?
    https://japanese.stackexchange.com/a/1958/9719 (it does have quite a number of other alternatives, lot of them more on the casual side, but that’s useful too)

    Also … wondering about お役に立てればうれしいです and お手伝いできてよかったです, although grammatically polite they aren’t dismissive about the fact that you feel you’ve been of help… While I don’t want to blindly apply general notions regardless of situation / context / people / changes in society etc., I was under the impression there’s a thing of being dismissive about our contributions and about compliments received, at least sometimes? How would we assess that here?

    (my first (and probably not last) comment here … I really enjoy your blog in general and also your Q and A on stackexchange)

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    1. locksleyu Post author

      Thanks for the comment! I’m in Japan now traveling but will reply to your comment eventually (:

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